Okay. There’s so much to tell you that I hardly know where to begin.
Do you remember me ever writing “I don’t think I have it in me to write another book?” after Healing the Sacred Divide was published in 2013? I don’t remember if I actually wrote it in a post, but I certainly said it. Often. To several people. And now I find myself saying it again.
But I’m very glad I didn’t say, “I’ll never write another book again,” because that would have been an inadvertent lie. Three years ago I suddenly felt motivated to revisit a deeply loved but impossibly challenging child. Birthed twenty-six years ago, it sprouted with promise until, like Peter Pan, it suddenly refused to keep growing. Then three years ago, with no warning, it changed its mind. Here’s what I’ve written about the time between then and now:
“Fortunately, the perfect nanny appeared at just the right moment. Jill Swenson is the Mary Poppins of frustrated authors and their difficult progeny. With help from her talented associates at Swenson Book Development, Mark Thyss and Audrey Arnold, she knew how to whip us into shape, where to stand firm, and when to offer a spoonful of sugar.”
Jill has my heartfelt gratitude. Because on November 17, The Soul’s Twins: Emancipate Your Feminine and Masculine Archetypes, will be released to the world. Except for its skeletal foundation, theme, the first three words of its name, and its psycho-spiritual core, all of which have remained essentially the same, it has morphed into a completely different creature. Maybe that’s because I have done a lot of learning and transforming myself since its inception.
Here’s what my publisher writes in their catalogue about The Soul’s Twins:
“Humanity today is plagued by a loss of meaning and alienation from self and others. Drawing on Jungian psychology and wisdom traditions from world religions, Dr. Raffa offers a self-guided journey to heightened self-awareness and compassion.
This guide for all who desire greater self-fulfillment and freedom to be themselves describes four masculine and four feminine archetypes in everyone. A self-assessment tool called the Partnership Profile helps readers overcome gender stereotypes and activate a new archetype of loving relationship with oneself and others.
This awareness, combined with suggested practices, empowers readers to address their imbalances and create the lives for which they yearn.”
And here’s the blurb my publisher, Red Feather Mind Body Spirit, an imprint of Schiffer Publishing Ltd., selected for the back cover:
“Here’s a bible to couple the nurture of feminine power with the heroic masculine journey, promulgating oneness with the divine. Jean Raffa has crafted a twenty-first-century road map for the soul.” ~ Randall B. Robertson, Founding Director of GladdeningLight, a nonprofit spiritual arts initiative.
Now I’m deeply immersed in preparations for the upcoming launch. Mostly that involves letting people know about it and asking for their help to spread the word. Here come more obstacles and pressures to stir into the smoldering mix of my shadow’s weaknesses and resistances. Some of you know me well enough to understand how difficult this is for me. Others might see my fairly well-activated Queen archetype who’s not about about to bring this baby into the world without doing everything she can to pave its way to success.
This inner journey to individuation and wholeness is such a complex business. Rife with conflicts and contradictions, it plagues us with self-criticism and self-doubt. It constantly presents us with new conflicts and challenges that incite our shadows to sink to their basest levels, and at the same time, inspire our souls to rise to their fullest potential. Perhaps the worst part of all is that you have to go it alone. No one else has the map or knows your answers. No one else can shoulder the responsibility of emancipating your true soul for you, let alone provide you with the motivation and courage to reveal your true self for the whole world to see and criticize.
Well that was a tough paragraph to write. But it’s true. And if you have ever questioned the standards of your childhood upbringing you know exactly what I mean. If who we were raised to be doesn’t work for us, then we need to work for changes that do work for us. I don’t believe any soul was born to conform to the previous generation’s expectations for us. We were born to become our true selves: beings of infinite potential and love. And we are the only ones who can make that happen.
I’ve written it before in this blog and I believe it to be true:
The transformation of the world is brought about by the transformation of oneself. ~Jiddu Krishnamurti
Are you ready to meet your soul’s twins?
Credits: Google images. Salvador Dali Shop Sculpture
Jean Raffa’s The Bridge to Wholeness and Dream Theatres of the Soul are at Amazon. E-book versions are also at Kobo, Barnes And Noble and Smashwords. Healing the Sacred Divide can be found at Amazon and Larson Publications.com. Watch for her new book, The Soul’s Twins, forthcoming from Schiffer Red Feather Mind Body Spirit on Nov. 17, 2020. For more information, subscribe to her newsletter at www.jeanbenedictraffa.com.