When relationships are problematic our ego finds it hard to believe that its lack of self-knowledge is part of the cause; but it is! Always! This is true whether the qualities we project onto others are negative, as in the examples from my last post, or positive. For example, the people we admire or fall in love with have certain characteristics we unconsciously associate with our ideal selves.
It is no coincidence that during the second half of the 20th century people throughout the world became fascinated with science fiction novels, television shows and films like War of the Worlds, Star Trek, Star Wars, E.T. and 2001: A Space Odyssey. Freudian and Jungian psychology were entering collective awareness in a big way during that era, and a major discovery was the reality of the unconscious self. With our growing awareness of an unknown inner universe came a parallel interest in the outer one.